No More Top 5’s From Me

I have had this website ( for quite a few years now. I believe I launched it originally back in 2006 or 2007 as a fun learning project to learn how to use WordPress. I had started “blogging” over on Myspace after following my good buddy Duane for quite sometime. I posted quite often and had a decent following after just a few months with a lot of friendly interaction in the comments section and on Twitter. But then something happened that ruined it all and I just realized that in the last few weeks. My favorite bloggers began to turn “professional” and the blogrolls started to disappear.

And I got caught up in the whole “movement” as the posts of what everyone was learning about in their daily lives and sharing their experiences with us started to turn into the Top 5 Ways to Build Your “insert whatever here”. And for the big names and influencers this was I guess their logical next step. But what I believe happened for many was we forgot why we started putting our thoughts and experiences online to share with the world.

So over the last few years my website has changed its look and feel more times than I can even count. It once looked like a magazine with major categories and media elements. Not sure where I was going to get all that content to support the look. It then turned into a push for consulting gigs where you only found production posts showing off all the things I was proud of in hopes of getting paid. No bites. I then decided I must be better at talking processes and leading so I turned it into a “leadership” blog and redesigned it like I was a big deal with leadership quotes and all. I learned that you can use a tool like wordpress to make you look like your something you really are not.

Then I decided last week to go back to the basics and just start sharing with the world like I used to. Share emotion. Share random things. Share experiences. And get rid of all the crap where I try to market myself.

So the site here now does one main thing and that is allow me to share my random experiences with you. I’ll be breaking all the blogging rules. I will not be consistent at posting. It will not be based around a topic. Most likely no Top 5’s. But it will be rich with emotion, honesty and hopefully fun/laughter. Why those three things? Because possibly my favorite speech ever was given by the great Jim Valvano who said:

“If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you’re going to have something special.” - Jim Valvano


She Chose “Being the Right One”

The idea that there is “the one” out there I never believed in. And even logistically it does not even make sense. As soon as someone marries the wrong person they have messed up the entire system/idea. With that being said, I’m so thankful my incredible wife did not believe in that either. You know why I know she didn’t? Because she decided to not spend her time looking for “the one”, but instead decided to focus on scripture and worked on “being the right one”. People that is huge!

So the other night Kirsten (my wife) asked me if I was nervous or unsure when I decided I wanted to marry her. And I said quickly, nope. We discussed for a few minutes about it and I could not put my finger on why it was so easy until today. I realized she had worked so hard on focusing on Jesus and “being the right one”. I would have been an idiot to be nervous or unsure.

So to sum up this quick off the cuff post. Men and women. Boys and girls. Don’t focus on finding “the one”, but instead focus on “being the right one”. It turns the entire selfish culture of marriage on it’s head.