EP02 – Baby, Take a Break

Does your spouse need a break? Do YOU need a break? In today’s podcast, we talk about what time looked like for us before and after kids, and what we’ve intentionally made time for to keep ourselves and each other from feeling like we’re losing it. 😂

We also cover that time we had a kid, how Kirsten got sucked back into a classic cult fiction series, and why this podcast could end up being a once a year thing.
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You Must Ask for Critiques

A few weeks ago I was traveling up to the mountains of Virginia from Atlanta by myself for a few hours and made a few phone calls to pass the time. Over the last year or so I have found myself actually liking to make phone calls instead of texting. That has nothing to do with this story, but maybe a post for a later date.

On one particular phone call a buddy and I got into the discussion of that uneasy & terrible feeling you get when your boss, coworkers, higher ups, etc. are not sharing with you what they truly believe about your work performance. When days, weeks, and even months go by when you never hear anything specific about your work peformance. You may get the weekly “great job”, but you get that gut feeling there is something there that they would like to tell you. And I get it, confrontation is not fun. Telling someone how to improve honestly (for most normal people) is not a natural thing we do. So for many people they wait until the annual review to get the download of all the things they “could” have improved on during the last 12 months. And I did exactly that until recently when I decided to go after the critiques and ask specific ways to improve… weekly.

Basically I decided to go on the offense and seek improvement instead of being asked to improve. So I personally call my boss (production director) each Saturday night on the way home after our Saturday night worship experience and ask…

  1. What he thought.
  2. What can I/we do better.
  3. What do I/we need to do again the next day.

Fortunately I have boss who loves to talk shop so the phone doesn’t bother him (that I’m aware of). And with Atlanta traffic we both have some time on our hands.

So this week start asking your boss the three questions I ask each week myself. I promise you that you will only get better clarity on what you are doing. You may just find out you are better than you thought and you can relax a little with the worry. Or you may find out your not as good as you thought and you have some improvement. Either way it will be a win for yourself and your team.

EP01 – Marriage: I Like You, You’re My Friend

Is your spouse your friend? In this episode of How To Real Life, we talk about the importance of friendship in a marriage: why it might seem obvious until you really break it down, and ideas on how to stay friends once you’re married.
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“One” Step at a Time

Each year for the past seven years or so I have picked one word to focus on for an entire year. The My One Word challenge is simple: lose the long the list of changes you want to make this year and instead pick one word that represents what you most hope God will do in you in the year ahead. This process forces clarity and results in focus.

Some years I’ve been better than others about sticking to the challenge. This year I am praying that I have my strongest year to date. I have gotten started by finally deciding on my specific one word today, only a little over a month late, but who is counting. And my one word for 2017 is… ONE.

  • Focus on one thing at a time.
  • Take one step at a time.
  • Invest in my wife (I have just one).
  • Invest in my son, Noah (I have just one).
  • Stop worrying about tomorrow and instead focus on today (one).
  • Focus on one chapter in scripture at a time.
  • Take one step at a time on the treadmill.
  • Eat one healthy meal at a time.

I can go on for quite awhile, but using the word ONE this year is to focus on the next right step and focus on being in the here and now.

Today for example I felt in tune with the word and God. I set my alarm for 6:00am and laid out my clothes, got my coffee mug and Bible ready at the table the night before. Then before I fell asleep I kept telling myself that my next one thing to do is to turn the shower on once I hear my alarm. I didn’t have to think about all that happens after that. I did not worry if Noah would wake up and end my reading time early. I did not have to think about making him breakfast or getting to my meeting at 10:00am. I just had to get my feet touching the floor and go turn the shower on. Once I got there I could continue to the next step, but before I did that I enjoyed my shower and time of prayer.

I encourage you to check out myoneword.org and even pick up the book. It’s never to late to start the process.